I’ve said it time and time again – STYLE is more than beauty, more than fashion, more than popularity. It’s confidence, poise, sincerity, knowing when to keep your mouth shut – and authenticity.
What is authenticity? Sarah Ban Breathnach, in her book Simple Abundance: A Day Book of Comfort and Joy defines it as “a tapestry of contentment.” She says that you have to BE who you are before you can HAVE what you want.
I would go further and say that authentic people are for the most happier, because they know and accept who they are. Authentic people are by no means perfect. But when a person isn’t burdened by baggage such as paranoia, jealously or excuses, the path to happy is a lot shorter!
One of the most valuable pieces of advice that I ever received was from a former boss early in my career. Every July, he would make appointments with every one of his more than 100 employees, and he would sit down with them and just talk. The first time I had my meeting with him, I had been with the company for only about 8 months. I had been hired to help set up the company to start selling internationally. I was a college graduate, came from out of town, spoke 5 languages, didn’t know anyone, and sat in an office in a building across the street from the main staff. When my boss asked how I was doing, I was honest. I told him that I just didn’t think I was going to fit in. Here’s what he said:
“Sara – All you can do is to be yourself. If you do that, and they don’t like you, it’s THEIR problem, not yours.”
I may not always be the most popular person in the room. I’m a strong woman, I’m opinionated, and I’m honest. But you’ll always know where you stand with me. And I know for sure that I’m proud of who I am and what I’ve accomplished, because I’ve earned every bit of it.
Do you know who you are? Are you proud of who you are? If not, what can you do to change that in 2013?
AND THE WINNER IS —– MANDY FORD!
Congratulations to Mandy for winning our give away for December, and thank you for commenting! Mandy, if you will e-mail me your mailing address, I will get your package in the mail right away!
For January, we’re going to celebrate our authenticity and simple abundance with a copy of Simple Abundance: A Day Book of Comfort and Joy. I have been using this book for at least 5 years now, and I learn something every time I read it. Included in the January give away will be a set of 4 of my homemade note cards and a lotion bar from my friend Julie Shank. Anyone who comments on any of my blog posts during the month of January will be eligible for the drawing. Don’t forget to invite your friends to read the blog!